This Me Describing Pain

Pain is the way your body tells you that you have crossed your comfort zone. Your body is telling you that you have done something unusual and it’s not very happy with what’s been going on. But actually, it is okay for you to feel that. It is totally fine for you to feel the pain in your stomach because you have tasted a new spicy dish from that new restaurant around the corner, or bruised from climbing a big tree to grab your little sibling’s kite, or a red sore feet from wearing a new high heels on a nice date, it is all a good kind of pain.

If the pain is unbearable, you may think that “this is the end” and no, that’s not the end. There’s a reason behind it, you may think that you can no longer do the old ballet moves that you did when you were young, and you are in pain doing it now. It is just because you have stopped trying. You had enough of ballet when you’re 15, but now you realize how much you love dancing to the rhythm, and you regret your past decision. That’s what being in pain is; you’re trying to pick up the pieces.

Being in pain may be hard; it will affect every little detail in your life. It will change the way you see, talk, walk, or even how you process everything in your life but that’s the beauty of it. You may find a new system for doing one particular thing, you could specify which part is good and the opposite, you have learned because you were in pain.

For better or worse, we all have our kind of story with pain. It’s a great time to realize that we can feel it, and should be very grateful because that means we have experienced the feeling. The pain that you took from doing something beyond your comfort zone is remarkable; it has marked your adventure as a safe point though you know how painful it is and you have to be careful for not doing it again. All you have to do when you’re in pain is just calmly enjoy the state and see where you left off.


With Love,



The Living without Living

Yes, I am in that kind of state. It’s the boredom that eating me up daily. I shouldn’t be, because if I’m looking through my life right now where I just need to walk across the street for the beach and climb a little for a mountain’s hill, I really shouldn’t be bored.

I have tried concentrating in my work, but writing seems a bit confusing, and playing games not amusing me anymore—yes, I play online games. Funny random fact: The only reason I play was to talk with other players. It is a bit lonely here.

Back to the early 23 years living in the city, I often feel the same loneliness. No sparks, and no excitements—don’t get me wrong, I have friends.

I never want to know what is wrong with me. If I decided to check my condition to the shrinks, they might say that I have anxiety, or depression. That ought to be one of that, but I refuse to agree.

Here’s what I think of it:

Human, have ups and downs all the time. Well I’m a human, so my ups are when I socialize with people, and I can get really cheerful for it. But the second I parted ways with people, the downs, the loneliness, tiredness, and other-ness struck me.

That’s just because the happier I get when I meet people, the more energy I lost. Not that I don’t like meeting my friends, to be honest, sometimes I go to a mini-market just to greet people—that’s the whole new kind of lonely.

I have a small capacity of energy, and not very good at keeping them.

Well. This is a wishy washy words vomit for the day. Congratulations, you just wasted 2-3 minutes of your life reading this.

With love,



Is a little thing we understand completely. For me, onomatopoeia is a conversation; we connect nature’s sound with ours, and using it only when talking with someone else. I always wonder, how the very first time it’s being used and noticed as one of nature’s language.

Like when we describes cats meowing and dogs barking in English and in my country a cat is simply meong and dog guk, moreoften, we called them as guguk and meong.

It’s not only how onomatopoeia is being used, it’s how different our humanization to nature’s sound. Based on the language I know, Indonesian and English, the sounds are captured on each language’s acceptance. And we have so many languages, and it’s amazing how a bark, guk, woof, haff, and vov taken as when dogs are talking. In every part of the world, the way healthy dogs bark and huff are in the same way, but they can be understood in different languages.

I don’t know where this is going, and I just mesmerized by the function of it. I’m thinking that beside body language, onomatopoeia is the wider and universal conversation that sounds the same, but everyone agrees and understands.

it’s amazing how dogs can talk to every one in the world without changing its dialect.

I’m receiving it as when I walk down the street, listening to sound my feet made, the wind kissing a tree’s head or just simply the sound of my own heartbeat. Onomatopoeia is the nature’s conversation that we understand in our own language, and each of it creates meaning for us.

A Writer’s Course

Being a writer doesn’t mean you can type all the different words every day with genuine fresh ideas. I recall the struggle I faced back in college when I have to write an essay or articles, even for a formulated one, the hardest part is to begin.

The beginning of my writing was at the 5th grade when I was interested in my school’s blank bulletin board. I walked by it every day to the cafeteria, noticed that nobody ever turn their heads to look at the board. I was so into poetry back then, credits for the classical Indonesian poet; Chairil Anwar, my mother brought me his poetry collection Aku and as a little child I am, burying my nose under the pages of his metaphors, simile and other figure of speech that I took literally and Indonesian vocabularies that I don’t even understand. That’s when the 10 years old me, made my own poetry based on the inspiration of my close friend Mr. Chairil Anwar and I posted it at the bulletin board. A month later, the board was always full withother students’ short stories, drawing and poetry. I must admit, this is the biggest success I ever had in inspiring others.

After the bulletin board, I don’t remember I have other writing experience until my college days, though I wrote journals back then, and twas always about my puppy love stories. I do remember reading books—plenty of books and comics—thanks to Mum, that always secretly in love with classic literature, and my older brother who stacked so many books that always interesting to read.

My brother, got into college for an English Linguistic and Literature major. There was when the stack of his book—and mine—gotten higher. I was introduced to Dan Brown, Henri Charrière, Agatha Christie, Asma Nadia, Habiburrahman El-Shirazy, and Andrea Hirata by my family’s mini library. That’s when I longed to be a writer, specifically, a children novel writer. And that dream was buried for a long time.

Until my college days, I was enrolled for the same major as my brother, I don’t know why I chose to study English—maybe twas the only thing I can do, English—but I was enchanted by other literature and being around people who appreciating it, suddenly I have the urge to write again. I wrote several poems in my journal, created one or two stories that only got through the first chapter, drawing sketches and playing my ukulele.

The Beatles, their songs also leaving a deep mark in my writing history—as I never understand Stan Getz without looking at the translations. I was deeply in love with their songs, and their stories, and that’s when I realized that ballads are amazing.

Back to my writings, the only book I have ever written successfully was my thesis for bachelor degree—it is called Skripsi in Indonesia. My research was based on something I deeply in love with; Children Literature. I used one of Ursula Vernon’s graphic novel as my thesis material, luckily I got in touch with her and got the insight from the author’s very own words–that’s kinda cheating. That was my first email conversation with a real writer. I will exaggerate this as an awesome experience, and I was the first student who made graphic novel research in my major.

I wasn’t a really good student, moreover a good writer, but I know I want to and I need to know if I can. So after graduated, I worked in a digital marketing company as a sales administrator. There was when I know about copy writing and envy the people who’s entitled. My colleague, who was a copywriter in that company—that always said “copy writing is easy, just copy and rephrase”—wasn’t from communication major or even linguistic and literature. But she is strong in English, and could applying it well—this is why I was jealous. I don’t even care about grammar, back in college, I have poor grammar understanding and very careless about it—still not well in the present though.

The company was only writing for Indonesian client and in Indonesian words, where I am not very capable of—I know, that’s embarrassing thing to say for my first language skill. So I searched for any company that will accept me as a newbie copywriter, and I found Inkspiration, a Singaporean digital marketing enterprise that accepted me the way I am. They took me in and taught me a lot of copy writing skills. They have plenty of Indonesian employees, working from home and posting their job through internet.

Here I am now, writing on the beach, drinking coconut water and working daily as a careless Copy Writer.

Crooked Cotton Ball Sky’s Frontier

I have tried so hard to write based on the schedule I have. But time sure is a decent enemy, we have trouble syncing our movements, or… maybe he’s ignoring me.

I believe that I never personified time. Bizarre. I amazed just how people have different approaches on something. Different ideas, and idealism. It also amuses me by how my brain still not cooky enough to produce things like that.

Hence, I adore the work of Alice Through The Looking Glass. From my commoner eyes, I’m aware that searching ideas to follow the first brilliant idea is not an easy task. Let alone the first story of Alice in the wonderland is made of cotton ball and thunder bolt, it succeeded to march the bedtime stories for decades.

Will I have another one? I hope so.

Good Morning Jakarta


This is the city full of people and smokes. My morning used to be heavy, because I have to commute 17Km from where I live, to my old office in the city.

As every city ever was, Jakarta is also very busy. The crowd of workers roaming through the road with motorcycles, busses, train, and other possible vehicles it is. Here’s what it looks like spending a day-to-day morning in Jakarta:

  • Took me 2 hours to go through 17 Km by bus every morning.
  • 1 hour if I use the Online Ojek.
  • Not very used to breakfast—since I never had a chance to.
  • No time to do my makeup since it will be ruined again the first time I step to my office.
  • To sleep early or to sleep late because catching up with my family.


okay this is exactly what you’ll find in Jakarta


this is kinda actually my morning routine

My office hour was 9 to 6. So basically, I always present when the sun on its best movement, sunrise and sunset. As I am tired head over heels and spending approximately 12 days outside, I never stop looking at my surroundings. But apparently, I am the only one who looks.

As my usual morning, I spend my time playing mobile phones games while killing time through the massive traffic—Pokémon Go usually is, and Vain Glory happens to trick my time and data usage to a very fun game time.

People seemed busy some of them were busy scrolling through their phones, plucked their ears with music, and some of them were lost in their thoughts. I found it people around me rarely picking up books anymore—I haven’t found another book to read myself.

Sometimes you’ll find yourself drowning in a pool full of people captivated by their own needs. Rushed, pacing their steps one, two, one, two. No more smiles for strangers not even a peek off. You’ll find yourself in a crowd of angry-sleepy people who need to be present at their office ASAP.

If you happen to join the Jakartans’ morning commute, then look around, the scene might be blocks of buildings and dirty road, but the people are interesting. Smile at how different they look, and how similar their ways of thinking are.

Stop for a while, ate breakfast at the porridge merchant on the side of the road while looking pity to those cranky people, and it’s usually sunny in Jakarta, so you will have your lovely morning almost every 6 months.


with love,



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Pokémon Go is Bad for You

First of all, This is pure coming from my thoughts and as a very thoughtful person, I am writing this post wihout being paid by any party. Second of all, I never intended to mock, make fun of, or creating bad images to ANY LIVING PERSON ON EARTH.

Okay, so listen up people. Pokémon is now available on your mobile telephone, aren’t you excited? Well maybe if you’re born in the 90’s you will have this pretty memories from playing one on your console. And for those baby boomers who didn’t know, you’ll be so curious about what is the 25 year old said about the fun in it.

My very beloved country has a very thick Islam culture and beliefs. As I’ve heard—before  the internet is born, and Wikipedia is just a normal Encyclopedia book–that Pokémon have many negative part and effect on Islam and Moslems. Here we go:

Pokémon means “I am Jewish” in Syriac Language.

I don’t really have the exact source that saying this is right or wrong. But understanding that the abbreviation of Pokemon is Pocket Monsters, then why is the short of it using e-acute or as we know written as Pokémon not the ordinary Pokemon? As a Language student, I am also curious, so as far as my understanding, the accent on letter e came from Latin language that translated to out of, after, upon, from and so on.

And still why is it written that way? Well, I am not an expert on Japanese etymology, so I’ll quote a Nintendo translator, Ms. Emi from the web StackExchange:

“The mark in question is an acute accent mark and is absolutely intended to mimic the native Japanese pronunciation, which itself is based on the English words “pocket monster”. Because of English orthography, there is considerable ambiguity surrounding the pronunciation of the character “e”. However, in Japanese, the orthography and pronunciation of “e” sounds presents no ambiguity. To accurately transcribe the “e” sound found in the English word “pocket”, only the character ケ, which is pronounced as /kɛ/, can be used. Therefore, to indicate the correct pronunciation in orthographically-complex, ambiguous English, the acute accent was used. The reason for this decision was because although no native English words use the acute accent mark, most English speakers, and many Japanese speakers, are familiar with the way in which an acute accent mark modifies pronunciation, due to the large number of existing French loanwords in both English and Japanese–entrée/アントレ, café/カフェ, and élite/エリート are familiar examples of this pattern.”

Well I’ve googled the word Shit in Yoruban Language, and it translated to Nik, it is funny because I have a friend named Nunik and I called her Nik all the time. Anyway, moving on!

The Augmented Reality on this game is helping “some country” to exploit our day-to-day life and mapping system.

Well, aren’t technology is so helpful? You are kindly using Path’s location tag, or instagram’s to spoil yourself when you are on a fancy place. Well maybe google mapping your way to Grandma’s house is not a problem right?.

Well hey if you are worrying that so much, please kindly just turn off the AR button please. Besides, it’s much easier than having it on—when catching a monster, and sign up using your gaming e-mail—I have a special e-mail for games sign ups—oooorrrr… don’t play at all. It is much more convenient. No worries, I will not judge you.

So far, this is what the hot issues are in my neighborhood. What I meant by writing this post is; please just let them play the game without thinking that it is a conspiracy. The game is pretty fun and bring gamers out from their man-cave—this is the positive side from it. The negative side from this game may be: the players are playing while driving, playing on a commute with friends and family, and using a load of internet data charge. As a very wise person—wise on unnecessary things—I hope all of us would appreciate each other, and give a correct news, from a right source while not pushing your opinion into someone else’s. We need to love and respect each other more, don’t you think?

And please if my point of view is wrong, do tell me nicely why, and how am I supposed to make it right. Comment bellow if you have your own opinion.


With love,






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Writing a SEO-Friendly Article

I have tried and tried so times to have my blog received some ideas from my brain. And having all this time since my last post, I have lost all the reason to write. I always think my head through like; what should I write about, should I write a SEO friendly articles so I have many followers?. Well apparently, the answer is still hidden, and I have to find out. What should I write about? Is this a writer’s block? LOL I’m not even a real writer.

Long after the thoughts, I began googling “how to write a SEO friendly articles for your Blog”, yes, I googled that way. After visiting a lot of tips and trick website—and also subscribing to some newsletters—I learned something, writing a SEO friendly article is really good and healthy for your blog, and there’s a ‘but’ to it, I tried to write something based on what people care about, but, I found myself not being honest writing the whole article, I have tried editing my choice of words, but it ended in the same way; not too honest. Well, apparently the article turned out to be fine as my friend read it, and still I couldn’t let myself being satisfied for that, the fact that I’m not truly honest with myself is bugging me.

Well then, I realized that I have a lot to learn. I am recently begin working as a Copywriter—YEAY—and as a writer, I have to train myself to write a good yet honest SEO article, how? After taking advice from the google’s ‘SEO article Hack’ I found myself agreeing with these tips:


1. Think Before You Write

This may be the first thing you should do first. You want to make a hit post without making enemies; well you are not God aren’t you?. Write about something you mastered well, that means you know the topic very well and write about it on your point of view, and try your best to not offend any party here. Well, for starters I will keep myself far from the Politics and Money topics—I am not an expert, and I am a coward. Anyway, just write about something you love and care so much, that will be nice.



2. Plan a Writing Structure

Like any good book, it has to have a Plot. Well does it hard? Let me try it this way:

  • The beginning of the story—or as we know, Introduction. Write how you relate to topic, the reason why you wanted to write this topic.
  • Tell the point; this is the body part of your writing. Keep yourself on track by relating the introduction to the body of the writing.
  • The End. Whoa, keep yourself making a conclusion for every story you have. Take the essence of the topic, and write it down as your conclusion.


3. Use Signal Words

Somehow the signal words are important. It keeps you and your writing on track by marking the writing with first of all, first, firstly, second, secondly, thirdly, fourthly, now, then, next, finally, to complete, after that, 1, 2, 3, last, lastly, furthermore, to begin with, moreover, in addition, to conclude, afterwards. And don’t forget the consequences; so, therefore, as a result, now, consequently, because of, thus, and etc. Or as the grammar book said; use sequence my friend


4. Optimize the Length of Your Article

As Marieke van de Rakt stated that google likes long articles, the minimum for your article is 300 words. And prevent yourself from writing long article that may bored people away, keep your article to 700 words.



5. Post Regularly

Yes, REGULARLY. Look at me, I’m a bad example for this.



6. Use Keyword Planner

For our needs of writing and being read by people, use the keyword planner to focus on keywords. It helps reader to find what they are looking for on your article.


Well then, I am still not an expert on this. Kudos for Marieke van de Rakt for writing these tips on So this is my list of how I am going to write an excellent article—for work purpose, and I think I am still going to write my head off and whatever I wanted to in this very blog—still going strong with inconsistency. If you have another better advice for me to write a good article, please let me know..


First thing first

Welcome, to the mind of a very average woman…

Hello. This is my first time writing a blog. I am a late comer, I know that, and I’m not used to write my feelings into typing. I was actively writing on my journals–so typical not famous girl–and was so shy to express my feelings in the internet. DON’T get me WRONG, I am an hyperactive-cheerful little woman in real life. Well, I am not petite either. My body heights to 165cm, which is normal for an Indonesian woman and a bit tall for the average woman here ( a tiny bit taller).

I was born in 1992, and yes I’m the millennial of my family. But nope, I’m not that techno-hype kid and is a kinda old school for people my age–be alert! I am not a hipster–that’s what a hipster said.

I am trapped in this old music taste, The Beatles–who doesn’t?. Blame my parents, they are the one who introduced me to this band. They would play a full album of the old Beatles’ songs and bought me the karaoke album–and the Michael Learns to Rock Karaoke Album.

-“hey Jude, don’t let me down”-

I bet you know that lyrics huh?, well I guess I’m not that special. I used to think that Jude is a woman–short to Judy– but I am SUPER WRONG. Hey!, English is not my first language here… until I have reached my 17, everything seems to be different. My mom is not the old play mates anymore, my dad is not the super clown anymore, but my brothers stays the same–annoying–and here’s where I hit the realizations that Jude is no Woman.

A bit slow isn’t it?. I know. But I love a long-lifetime plot twist.

Now I have spilled a bit random things of me, and again, welcome to my average mind.


with love,

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